SWAMPSCOTT – Order up a high school or college coach from central casting and chances are Frank DeFelice is what you would get. From the brim of the baseball hat that covers his close-cropped hair to the tip of his athletic shoes, DeFelice looks every bit the part. His frame lean and wiry, his face craggy and ruddy from decades spent stalking the sidelines.He has coached football, basketball, baseball and track. He?s coached at Merrimack College, Bentley University, Endicott College and Boston College. He?s coached at Swampscott High, Lynnfield High, Hamilton-Wenham and Xaverian.In 35 years coaching baseball at Swampscott his teams won 465 games. He was inducted into the Massachusetts Baseball Coaches Association Hall of Fame in 2002. His first coaching job came was when he was in the service. A low-level enlisted man at the helm of a flag football team, he was “in charge of sergeants, colonels and first lieutenants,” he said, laughing.Among the other athletes he?s coached are former NFL head coach Dick Jauron, Channel 5 sports anchor Mike Lynch, Heisman Trophy winner Doug Flutie and former NFL players Bill Adams, Stephen Boyd and Bill Romanowski. Ask him where he coached when, and he doesn?t answer with years. He lists names:?Well, I was at BC for Flutie ? I had Mike Lynch in high school?I had Dick Jauron when he was in high school.”It all adds up to a lifetime of coaching.But for the first time in 50 years, DeFelice, who is 74 — “74 ? as they say at the greyhound track,” he amends ? was not on a sideline this fall. Instead, he was watching from the stands like so many of his contemporaries. He swears he doesn?t miss coaching.?I enjoy watching games now,” he said. “I stay as long as I want. I went to an Endicott practice. But I had a dinner date with my wife, so I left. I have a little more freedom now.?I discovered the fall ? August, September, October, November. I?m not thinking about coaching. I told my wife I don?t want anyone to ask.”Can we believe this from a man who insisted his wife make a prenuptial agreement??Yeah, I told her I?m going to be a football coach for the rest of my life. I hope,” he said, with a laugh. “And if she told me I couldn?t, it would be a deal breaker.”It didn?t break the deal.?And I was kind of thankful for that,” said Susan DeFelice, his wife of 46 years, about the agreement. “It?s worked out very well for us. And even him not coaching has worked out better than I thought.?After 50 years of coaching, I said, ?Oh, what am I going to do with him in the fall?? But it has worked out pretty good.”They were able to take a couple of trips this fall, take in a couple of BC games. Things they would not have been able to do in years past. And with a large extended family, including three grown children ? Jimmy, who lives in Lynn, Paul, in Colorado, and Mary, who is in Wenham ? they have more time for visiting now.But it doesn?t diminish his decades of work.Dick Lynch, Mike Lynch?s father, was a longtime baseball, football and basketball coach at Swampscott High, where he worked with DeFelice, and athletic director at Danvers High for 15 years. He?s seen his share of coaches.?I?ve always felt that good coaching is three very important points,” said Dick Lynch. “One is discipline; two is enthusiasm; and three is knowledge. And he had all those things.?If Frank said sit, they didn?t look for a chair. He was tough, but he was smart-tough. He knew when to be tough and when to pat them on the back.?He just loved coaching and he still does. I told him he was going to die on the 50-yard line.”Baseball was DeFelice?s initial passion. A Winthrop native, he earned a tryout with the Red Sox out of high school. But the scout watching knew DeFelice had a scholarship to Boston College to play football. His advice? Take the scholarship, kid.?It broke my heart,” DeFelice said. But, he took the advice and the scholarship.The academics didn?t agree with him at first. “I flunked out of BC and went into the service,” DeFel